New Life 4 Today
Hello new reader,
Thank you for visiting my new blog. I promise that you will learn a great deal about things many people take for granted and are never taught.
The things that I will refer to- I learned over my 30 years as a behavioral counselor. The research that I did led to this revelation for you to enlighten your mind, and possibly change some things in your life that may be leading you down a path to destruction.
The first series will deal with the "ins and the outs" of relationships and marriage. I have inquiries every week from people who admit they believe they are about to make a mistake in their present choice of an intimate partner. Knowledge, of what to look for, is the key to a successful relationship or marriage.
The divorce rate is entirely too high for that institution to successfully survive. The ones who suffer the most are the children the broken marriages leave behind.
The very first series includes: How To Save Your Relationship or marriage - 101.
This particular series is where it all begins. This information will help you to be aware, careful, and a non-victim when your relationship begins.
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How
To Save Your Relationship and Your Marriage
101
Author
- Dr. Russell O. David- Certified Counselor
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Hello, and welcome new reader to my series of messages!
(This series is especially for the ladies)
You will
find an information source here like non you have ever seen! I know
this because I have heard every reason given for why a marriage does
not work out, and I've received an abundance of requests for this answers on a weekly basis.
This
series of messages will give you insight into how a marriage can be
saved even before it occurs. You can't even imagine how much grief
this information will save you!
The
much of the information is taken from my book "How to OOPS
proof your marriage" that
was written in 2013, and from basic Bible principles.
The,
specific, purpose of this series of insights
and tips is to help
young, and old, to understand why - if these tips are not
followed - their marriage or relationship has greater
than a 90% potential
for FAILURE.
Research
is vital
Relying on basic human instincts, many people get themselves
into a tremendous amount of trouble by not considering
the value of research.
To trust anyone blindly, and on what you are told is a
very stupid thing to do. To a person - humans are liars! They will
lie 100% of the time, and if you believe them and fail to do your
"due diligence" then the resulting fall-out is your
own doing.
So, you want to know how to do research in a non-offensive
manner! Well, that's why you are reading this now - to learn. The
problem then would be to do it.
I know while the infatuation stage is still in effect - you
will not see much of what you need to see, however observance is the
key to a successful research.
It is imperative that you set your goals of what type of
person you, potentially, want to spend the rest of your life with.
Knowing your own goals is a major key to figuring this out.
A part of your research is determining whether or not the two
of you are compatible.
Example:
Are you a neat person who keeps you car, and house,
relatively clean?
If this is you, the first thing you want to look at is the
other person's car. How a person keeps their car is a direct
reflection of how they keep their house! If you see someone who has
not washed their vehicle since they bought it you are seeing a person
who has no respect for cleanliness or tidiness. If their vehicle is
all beat up with lenses broken on lights, and have tape over them
beware that they will be the same in a home setting.
Remember - we're using the scenario that you are a relatively
neat person and have a dislike for filthiness!
You are a person who washes the dishes after eating a meal.
They allow dishes to pile up in the sink over a period of time and
become smelly. How long after the fantasy wears off do you think you
will tolerate this?
In opposition to your habits - does this person smoke, do
they drink alcohol excessively, do they have profanity coming out of
their mouths all the time? How long will you subject yourself to this
torture. When the good sex wears off, what do you have to maintain
the relationship?
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I've seen many cases where this next thing should have been
done. That is a background check, which is a very inexpensive thing
to do online.
Like I said before, humans are natural liars, and you can
believe that a person will never tell you about the undesirable
things and episodes in their lives.
Example:
Do you think a person will tell you about any of the following
when they are trying to win your heart?:
1. That they have someone else while they are having an affair
with you.
2. That they are married and are still with their family. They
are merely using you.
3. That they have a criminal background, possibly to include
murder.
4. That they are abusers.
5. That they are alcoholics.
6. That they are lying about their economic status.
7. That they have a potentially explosive temper.
8. That they are of the same religious belief as you.
9. That they love you for other than sex.
10. That they have lost their driver license.
Do you get the picture?
If you see things that are questionable - question
them!
I'm sure you can, from your own experiences, come up with
others. The purpose is to get you to thinking about the down side of
not doing a background check on this person.
The important thing is to cover you own ass-ets!.
The next blog will be based on the idea that there is
something that comes far ahead of love, and if you ignore or overlook
it you may be in for a very bad period in your life.
The next title is: What comes before love? 101
